The Chicken, the Egg, the Male and the Female

As kids we go from asking, "Was it the chicken or the egg that came first?" to "Was it the female that started the viscous cycle of heartache or was it the male?" For many cases, my personal vote lies with both the female gender and the male gender. Women hurt men in the beginning and then men keep the cycle turning by choosing to harbor their hearts away from the detrimental dent on their young egos. And as women, we don't want to admit that we, as a unit, initially caused the heartache that we will endure for years until we find that one guy. The one who decides to throw out the conditioned idea that all men need to put forth an ego of concrete to be a true "man".

        There is no weaker sex. There shouldn't need to be a distinction of that. We, as both females and males, are constantly trying to make sure that we are "wearing the pants" or have the imaginary "upper hand". We are both at default to the issue. Why do we need to control something that is best not controlled, that is best when nature takes it's course and the idea of love isn't what we define it to be but defines itself over the journey together as two people in love? When we forfeit ourselves to that other person and the other person does that in return, we can truly be ourselves and vanquish all expectations and replace it with hope, faith, and unconditional love. This is a constant factor, even when we are establishing relationships as children. No one wants to admit he or she is weak, that he or she is subject to vulnerability. The denial that takes place in all of this is what truly sets us apart from what we think we deserve in life to what we will find out through personal liberation. When had denial ever given us the satisfaction of a positive result?

       In any given case, denial has always taken the role of the bad guy. But through the processes of coming to any positive result we must acknowledge the step of acceptance. The acceptance of who we are, staying true to how we feel and following those feelings to come to the greatest things and the greatest moments we will ever know. So when it comes to the chicken and the egg and the female and the male and who committed the crime first, we'll find that the fight over what the answers are distract us from the realization that we see with more concise and love with more clarity without those answers.